Soul Candy 005 | Happy Birthday to Me!

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"I wanted to buy a candle holder, but the store didn’t have one. So I bought a cake."
Mitch Hedberg

Except I made mine :) Strawberries Romanoff Cake

Though we just had a global new year birthdays are your own personal new year. This past year was a time when I decided to start working concertedly to protect my peace and only do and surround myself with people and things who: are truly meaningful to me, add to my joy, and help keep me grounded. It hasn't always been easy but I finally have come to a place where I have no shame in putting myself and my sanity above everything else. Selfishness is often cast in a bad light because at it's worst it causes people to be thoughtless and hurtful towards those they care about, but at it's best it sets up realistic boundaries and expectations that demand that you and your time deserve respect and consideration. I can truly be present in the moment when I've chosen how I want to spend my time and energy instead of wrestling with feelings of guilt or resentment and wishing I would have just said no. I'm still learning to find balance with this new approach but I'm happier now with how I view myself, the world, and my place in it than I have been in a long time. I'm looking at 32 years with gratitude and am so grateful for each and every one. I hope I get at least 32 more and continue to grow, learn, and be a better person for myself and those around me.