Dare180: The Power of Accountability Groups a.k.a Get Your Life Right Meetings

 Image | A lexis Brown

Image | Alexis Brown

About twice a month, usually after payday because most of us are broke but like to break bread while we’re breaking down our problems, I get together with friends to hash out our respective plans for world domination and getting our lives right. It’s more than just a hang out with a good friend it’s about discussing our plans that we’re implementing to accomplish our goals and conquer our fears. The group is open to anyone who shares the idea of uplifting others and using the strength found in numbers to push through the ups and downs of entrepreneurship and self improvement. We meet in person and share what we’ve been working on and strategize about where to go next to get what we want. It’s part therapy session and part educational seminar. We share tools and resources that have helped us with particular conundrums and wax pathetic about what we’re finding frustrating that we have no solution for. We also check each other when we’re making unreasonable excuses or start falling behind in our progress.

These meetings work. This blog and several other projects both professional and personal that I’m currently working on are born from the motivation and support derived from these meetings. The fears, anxiety, and helplessness that happens when you start something new are shouldered by more than just yourself. You have the benefit of using someone else’s clarity of your situation since they are removed from it; they can see how to connect all the dots when you aren’t even seeing the dots. That’s what accountability groups can do. Whether it’s just one other person you’re meeting with or ten it doesn’t matter as long as the support is constructive and helps you and others move to the places they want to be.

Get the Most Out of Your Meetings

  1. They should be a no judgement zone filled with respect.
     
  2. They should be focused but not so rigid that people feel like they can’t have some flexibility in what they discuss
     
  3. It should meet regularly. Twice a month works for my group but yours may choose to meet more or less often depending on what you need.
     
  4. It should be with people you feel comfortable with sharing intimate details of your life and business with. Trust is everything in accountability meetings.
     
  5. When meeting you should take notes about what your goals, setbacks, accomplishments, and action plans are as well as writing down the same for other members in your group. Doing so will help you remember what you discussed and what everyone is working on.
     
  6. You should check in even if not everyone can make it, even if that check in is just with yourself.
     
  7. Everyone should be all in. The group does not need flaky people no matter how well-intentioned they may be because they aren’t ready to get their lives right yet OR your particular group isn’t a good fit for them. Don’t be mad at them just keep it pushing.

No matter how formal or informal your meetings are they can be an overwhelmingly positive move to make. They can be specific to one particular goal you’re pursuing or they can be general where all topics fair game. It may take some time to find reliable people to have meetings with if you don’t already have a few in mind, but accountability groups are honestly one of the best tools you can have to help you keep moving forward and conquering your goals.